I had a friend back in high school who used to share this one interesting philosophy regarding relationships…
While most of my high school classmates were caught up with all their crushes, MUs (mutual understandings), boyfriends, girlfriends, kilig (shivers) and other typical high school drama, my friend was happy and satisfied with being single. He used to always say: “Para san pa ang paggi-girlfriend kung di mo rin naman aasawahin?” (“What’s the point of being in a relationship with someone you have no intention of marrying?”)
Back then, to the rest of us, what my friend said just seemed funny and too simplistic to even consider; it felt weird just thinking about it. Now, however, I’ve come to realize that, perhaps, he did have a point – and an excellent one at that.
Just think about it. Why bother investing yourself too deeply in someone you don’t at least consider sharing a life with? Does it make sense to commit to something you know won’t work out?
Now, don’t get me wrong. The point of this is not to keep you from dating, or getting to know someone, or making moves on someone. No, the real deal is to be more purposeful in the relationships we engage in, so that we can refrain from making the mistake of getting into something we can’t commit to
It tends to break a lot of hearts unnecessarily when we’re not serious about our relationships. Deep inside, you know you’re worth more than just something to be played with. You’re worth a lot more than you think you are.
Let’s take this one step at a time; there’s no need to rush. We were designed by God to love fully and genuinely; we just have to go back again and again to that original design.
Written by Mon Reyes